Like most of younger siblings, I too got bullied and had snobbish moments with my older sibling. I am the youngest and luckily, I have a bully brother before me. He really was a bully and aloof towards me. I used to envy my friends who have older brother or sister who is very caring, sweet, and close to them. Never did I think that my brother would change. He was mean to me, BIGTIME. He treated me like not even a single gene was common in our body, like we were not from the same womb who bore us! I cried a lot of times of course. I prayed for my brother for years. And amazingly, a miracle happened!!
We’re not the closest sibling but we have improved, seriously! Things started to cool down between us when he was in his college years. He became a relatively caring and sweet. He asks for my opinion on his outfits–which I very much like of course! He even asks me to accompany him to malls when he is to buy something. Before, he didn’t even want people to know we’re siblings. Haha. Him, going out with me, is totally a miracle! Also, never did we talk about personal things like friendship, lovelife, etc. but now, just lately really, we started to talk about them. I felt that we’re starting to build a strong bond–which really really have to especially we’re just two. It was my dream to have a talk with my brother about lovelife/guys. I wanted his opinion as a guy and advice as mu brother. I opened up lately. At first, he showed indifference and lack of concern but eventually started to ask questions and gave me some advice. Cool right? 🙂 Though it wasn’t the deep talk and all, still, he talked to me about it! Haha. I really appreciated the concern I felt when he told me I should be careful. Really :”> We also now talk about opinions and stuff. That was awkward before. Talking was awkward now. Good thing it’s getting casual now. (I like our deep talks actually ;)) And now, we finally have a bond–I hope it’s consistent though. We are jogging/running/fitness buddies! He really takes care of me on this. I’m sincerely touched! I’m feeling his eagerness for me to move my body and start sweating. When I refuse to wake up early, he really drags my body off the bed. Funny situation really. And when jogging, he pushes me to go further. Ever since, I wanted to have a bond with my brother and now it’s happening. Hope we’re consistent on this! Healthy and fun way of bonding.
My brother has flaws, like me. I and my parents often face conflict in dealing with him. There are even times where I want him out of the house. But as I talk and bond with him, I feel that he’s not as bad and hard hearted as I thought him as. At least now, he’s changing. He may be rude, stubborn, selfish, and cold but there’s always the other side of those–this I am sure of. I feel it. I thank God for that. Years, I questioned God why my brother was like that before and why he wasn’t changing. I though God wasn’t answering me but now, I feel the miracle. Hope the changes continue. Still, no matter what, I won’t give up on him. He still got my back whatever what happens. 🙂 and oh, thank you for not calling me piggybabes anymore! haha ayiie love na niya ko. Be na ang tawag niya sakin”I love you too kuya! 🙂